When I reflect on the Mentors that have been a part of my professional development, I recall a number of compassionate, focused and encouraging individuals who were unconditionally engaged in my development.
Over 35 years ago a Mentor challenged me to look at the unconscious impact of my self-limiting behaviour.
Through sharing his story he challenged me to write a new possible future for myself. This was life changing! As I look back on the years I realize that working through that life changing process supported my self-awareness and acceptance. It evoked an unconditional, non-judgemental attitude towards others that I strive to live.
A few years before this change, a Mentor helped me to care for myself through a period of ‘running in to my illusions’ about what life would be for me! Whenever I run into a new ‘illusion’ I think of him!
Whenever I have ‘creative, artistic moments’ I think of a lifelong relationship that was started as formal mentorship for my growth and evolved into peer-mentoring. This Mentor consistently encouraged and challenged me to think creatively, he was out side of the box before ‘outside of the box’ was even a concept!
Other Mentors have supported and stretched my capacity to take on greater leadership roles, refine my professional identity and continue to hone my strengths with others.
As a Coach I have experienced Mentor Coaching that has been affirming and positive about my core coaching competencies.
Mentoring from other Coaches has also been both blatantly challenging and subtle. I have experienced the eye opening aha moments when Mentors have said things like ‘Brian, when you said this, it may have been patronizing’; ‘are you aware that you had opportunity to acknowledge the growth of the client’; ‘what was happening when you smirked as the client said …’.
The effectiveness of the Mentor Coaching that I have experienced has been evident in the parallel emphasis on how I demonstrate the coaching competencies I aspire to; and, how I ‘show up’ in coaching sessions as a Coach who is present, in tune, open and unconditional with my client.
My coach development has involved both formal and informal mentoring relationships that have helped me to observe and reflect on my coaching behaviour. It has enhanced my level of professionalism and I have become more competent in my work with clients.
If you wish to explore Mentor Coaching as part of your Coaching Professional Development I would be happy to discuss it with you.