Mentor Coaching has influenced me to explore my behaviour through two lenses ‘my competency’ and ‘my capability’!
Experiencing deep exploration of who I am as a coach, my presence, commitments, values, courage to explore the ‘Coach’ that is deep within me, has defined who I am as a Mentor.
What is my commitment as a Mentor Coach?
I am committed to candidly and carefully reflecting on competency based coaching practice with Coaches.
I am also committed to much deeper reflection about the Coach as a person. I wonder about who they are in relation to themselves, the Client and the world of the Client. What am I noticing about the Coach as she coaches? Does she have the capability to hear the deeper meaning of the Client’s story? Is there a willingness to enter into the story unconditionally? Is the Coach holding the Client in a caring and generative space?
All of this leads me to the point of this blog post: As a Mentor Coach, I view coaching through at least two lenses when mentoring.*
A Capability Lens implies that as a Mentor Coach I engage Coaches in critical reflection of themselves in the context of their coaching practice.
If I see the Coach ‘as a person who is immersed in a trusted and creative relationship with another person and that relationship is immersed in a complex and dynamic environment’, the capability lens adds value by deepening the mentoring process.
Capability implies the ability to reflect and evolve in real time. Coaching capability is seen in collaboratively reflecting, evolving and generating growth with clients.
- As a Coach, I ask myself, my Mentors and colleagues questions to enhance my capabilities. How was I present with this client? How was I being as a coach?
- What was going on inside of me when she said …? What did I do with his push back in … area?
- Were there opportunities for me to go deeper? What kept me from going there?
- Did I serve my client’s agenda? What was my agenda in this session?
- What was I missing?
This type of question, offered in a safe and trusting relationship, can create awareness and new growth in the mentoring relationship.
What are your questions about your coaching?
The Competency Lens significantly supports our growth as a coach. As Coaches we have a commitment to reflect on our practice and to explore new ways to engage clients. Mentoring provides a safe place to explore the coaching process, our connection with the client, and how we are able to walk with the client as they discover their way into the future.
Appreciating competency levels and standards helps us to see how we are doing on our quest to master the art of coaching.
Coaches actively seek Mentor Coaching because they desire feedback or acknowledgement. They seek an outside view and review of how they are demonstrating the ICF Competencies in a specific coaching conversation. Typically the outcomes reflect the observations of the session and a dialogue around what went well and what the Coach could change to become more effective (read competent) and confident with clients.
Here is my point: capability transforms competence.
Coaching competencies become much more alive and effective when we are able to dig into our deeper capabilities as authentic, respectful, engaging Coaches.
As Coaches and Mentors we have an awesome responsibility to be present with our Clients. How we show up is seen in our capacity to be present, listen and support. When we are fully present our Clients have greater opportunity to be their best selves.
Commit to explore and demonstrate the competency and capability that grounds you as a Coach.
I welcome your thoughts on this blog and my other blog posts.